The LIFE Rollercoaster: HELP: I WANNA GET OFF!!!

Life Roller Coasters

HELP: I WANNA GET OFF!!!

I recall years ago going on trips to Coney Island in Brooklyn, New York. Back then that was a big deal, especially the anticipation of what was considered the most exciting roller coaster ride of that time, “The Cyclone”. For some reason anticipating tumbling from the top of a huge hill at record speed made the heart race, and actually doing it caused even more heart palpitations. I remember as that huge machine went creaking slowly up, what seemed like, an insurmountable hill. There was a deluge of thoughts that ran through my mind, from “Oh Lord this was a mistake”, or “Why did I let them talk me into this” or What if this thing gets to the top and I go flying off” or literally whispering prayers of repentance, just in case. Needless to say, this was always the anticipated and also dreaded ride of my life, but at the end I would utter a sigh of relief knowing ALL WAS WELL!!!

Over the years, women, especially those of the Christian faith have been taking a severe bashing, as we go up and down the roller coaster ride of life. Those women bent on birthing purpose are under siege and if they can be eradicated, the seed of the family will be completely destroyed. The LIFE roller coaster ride is violently going up and down and God’s daughters are taking a beating on every turf. As a result of the ride, the Christian therapist bent on finding healing answers, stands on the sidelines waiting for those playing the roller coaster LIFE game to get off, take a deep breath, and put their hands in the air as they make their way down hill screaming HELP!!!

As one of those therapists waiting on the sidelines, when those seeking my help decide to schedule an appointment with me, my first question is usually “how can I help you”? That simple, yet riveting question, has managed to reap a colossal array of responses, one of which is usually “how can I change my life? I think I am depressed. I think I suffer from anxiety.” The list goes on and on and these responses are most times followed by whimpering and sobbing from being on the ride of their lives for so long, as they try to figure out what they did wrong and why the ride of LIFE is spiraling out of control. The response to this ongoing ride is mind boggling, sometimes even for the therapist, bent on helping to repair the emotional bumps and bruises already suffered. While the desire is always to see the glass half full, some scars are very deep.

The hurt, discouragements and rejections suffered on this life changing ride leaves one’s heart in a fright that is second to none. However, all should not be lost knowing there is an answer on the horizon that brings comfort and healing on every downward slope. It is up to the therapist to prescribe tools that bring comfort and release, especially when the ride seems unending. There is a remedy for this LIFE roller coaster that has the potential to cripple one’s dreams, desires and hopes.

What or who is the answer that brings lasting hope?

How can one find comfort in a devastatingly uncomfortable life?

The voice of hope, intimacy, joy and comfort, beckons for attention. Despite the anguish that this ride sometimes causes, there is healing to be embraced as the victims release themselves and victoriously scream as they get to the bottom of the ride ALL IS STILL WELL!!! “He heals the broken hearted and binds up their wounds” Psalm 147:3

Priceless Daughters of the King: Part 1

Proverbs 31:10 exhorts: “Who can find a virtuous and capable wife? She is more precious than rubies”. As one reads through this most memorable proverb, the writer makes a declaration about the woman of virtue, who God aspires that all His daughters strive to become. Her characteristics are that of being trustworthy, hard working, prudent, excellent, respectful, strong, professional, helpful, classy, regal, humorous, kind, energetic, virtuous and absolutely “priceless”. The author of this awe-inspiring scripture explains that this woman is worth more than rubies. Though the celebrated saying announces diamonds to be “a girl’s best friend,” rubies and sapphires are mentioned more often as priceless jewels in the Bible. Therefore, this woman of virtue is viewed as precious and expensive to those who recognize her likable qualities.

This daughter of the King of kings adorns herself with inward beauty and grace that can only exude as a result of her relationship with the Lover of her soul. According to one source “Great heat and pressure were required to transform the source materials in rubies into the hard mineral that they become”. Hence, this description of those most blessed to be called God’s daughters requires that they endure great heat and pressure, to become the precious jewels God intends.

Let’s talk about her clothing as revealed in Proverbs 31:

31:17 = “She girds herself with strength and makes her arms strong.”

31:22 = “her clothing is fine linen and purple.”

31:25 = “Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she smiles at the future.”

One could venture to say, like the song writer some years ago, “I AM WOMAN HEAR ME ROAR”, and speculate whether they could accomplish her persona and fit into her mold. My sisters in Christ I venture to say we can, but only by the grace bestowed on us by our Father. When we enter into a genuine relationship with Him, we are branded as His called and glorious inheritance (Ephesians 1:18).

However, there is a price to be paid and it happens in the crucible of combat. If you’ve ever wondered why the trials seem so severe, or why the enemy is always on your tail? The answer lies in your becoming the priceless ruby God intends. One jewel expert said “One of the most remarkable things about the formation of rubies is that geologists are not sure how it happens. Without question, however, the very existence of rubies is something of a minor geological miracle”. Experts also said “Rubies are a red variety of transparent corundum” and corundum is a rare find. As daughters of the King, we too are rare finds and must carry ourselves as such. We are continuously fashioned on the Potter’s wheel, which at times can be a painful process. To Be Continued…

Priceless Daughters of the King: Part 2

To continue our acknowledgment of who the priceless daughter is, we go center stage with the narrative of one of the King’s priceless gems. As we venture into her life, we are greeted by a happy wife. Her name means attractive, pleasant, and beautiful. When famine came upon the land her husband made the decision to move to Moab. Though this seemed like the perfect place to settle, it was also the place where Naomi suffered significant losses on her journey to becoming priceless, eventually changing her name to Mara (bitter). She suffered the loss of her husband and two sons who were her most prized possessions. These major losses, though they seemed like stumbling blocks, would render her the vessel God would use to win her daughter-in-law Ruth to His kingdom. Ruth’s son would inevitably become part of the lineage of the Messiah Himself. From the beginning, she was a priceless ruby in the making. (Ruth 1-4)

The question is presented to you today: How are you being made in the crucible of events God is utilizing to present you priceless to those watching your journey? Have you suffered major losses? Has illness tried to strip you of your pleasure? Do you feel alone and afraid? Do the negative circumstances seem to outweigh the positive ones? Does your weeping seem to be enduring for more than a night? Do you feel that God has forgotten you? Do the stumbling blocks of life seem overbearing? Do your past wrongs seem like they are dictating your future? Does the price of becoming priceless seem too high to pay? If any or even all these questions have infiltrated your journey, I encourage you today “DON’T QUIT”. No matter how difficult it may seem, you are in the process of becoming a priceless gem in the hands of the Master.

The priceless woman is not priceless because she has acquired power for herself or because she is capable. She is priceless because she has learned, in the fire of being made, how to serve the Lord with all her heart. She has embraced her suffering with strength and dignity. She recognizes she is transparent corundum, a rare find, a woman destined for success and victory. She will say with the psalmist:

 “You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knitted me together in my mother’s womb. Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it. You watched me as I was being formed in utter seclusion, as I was woven together in the dark of the womb. You saw me before I was born. Every day of my life was recorded in your book. Every moment was laid out before a single day had passed. How precious are your thoughts about me, O God? They cannot be numbered”! (Psalm 139:13-17)

The clothing depicted in Proverbs 31 equips us to be priceless daughters of the King. We must unite in our pilgrimage to become virtuous women, invaluable rubies who cannot be fathomed and whose depth cannot be measured.